Isn’t it Ironic? 10 Things You Know for Self Love

Isn’t it Ironic?  One of the most difficult things for me to do while I am experiencing emotional discomfort is to practice the very things that will waltz me out of the discomfort.  The things I know would be beneficial and accommodate some mindful living.  I have many banters with myself around this topic and it is something like a hamster wheel in my brain that picks up speed with each repetitive round.

I know what to do, I know what works, but somewhere in there I feel the pull to resist what I intuitively know will change my perspective and remove me from that emotional discomfort.

Why?  More importantly, it really does not matter.

As a yoga instructor I am deeply committed to mindful living, both physically and mentally.  I have no interest in judgement or shame, it serves no purpose.  I constantly work on coming from a place of observation and acknowledgement.

Practicing this task seems much easier when I am NOT looking inward at myself.

Forgiveness seems to flow with abundance for people around me, however, it becomes rather elusive when I need to apply that to myself.  Why?

I chuckle, because, I know I am not unique in this endeavor.  The one liners and cliché sayings that are touted out there for a reason.  The ones that might make you have a mental eye roll because, their simplicity seems so…… simple.  Let me reflect on a few; “We are our worse critic.”  “Speak to yourself as you would to your dear friend.”  “Stop beating yourself up.”  “If you are doing the best you can that is good enough.” Yes, you know the ones!

I am not different in those feelings of self judgement, harsh criticism or unrealistic expectations of myself.

I wait for the day that this mindfulness will come like second nature when I am needing to apply it to myself.  However, today it takes work, effort and a certain degree of discipline.  I make a mental note of the task at hand.

  1. Breathe
  2. Be present
  3. Be kind to yourself in your words and actions
  4. Direct your internal dialogue to positive affirmations
  5. Be willing to experience the negative feeling and allow it to pass through you
  6. Drink water
  7. Eat food that nourishes you
  8. Sleep
  9. Incorporate an activity that gives you joy~ even if you don’t want to
  10. Thank yourself for being brave and showing up in your own life

The irony is, that on days that are smooth, days that are reasonably innocuous, these 10 things seems to be readily available.

It is rather like having the umbrella in your car on a sunny day.  It is when I am in need of these 10 things that they seem to become elusive and more difficult to apply.  The song by Alanis Morissette echoes through my head, yes, she knows and she is spot on.

Today, the reason is inconsequential, the action is the important part.  Action, motivated by good intention is my ticket.  Directing those good intentions toward myself is the most important part.

So, come along with me, practice mindfulness, but first, apply it to yourself and do it while breathing deeply!

DandeLyon Vredenburg

Owner ~ Writer ~ Yoga Teacher

DandeLyon is an artist with a camera, a magical writer, a beautiful yogini, a brilliant mother, and a lover of horses and people. In healing from a massive hemorrhagic stroke, she found that it is her imperfections that make her perfect. TheShiney is her story.

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