What I know for sure: You ALWAYS have the right to end a relationship if it doesn’t feel safe to you. You also have the right to define your idea of “safe.” This means romantic, friendship, professional, business or any other type of relationship. You are not bound to stay engaged in any relationship out of obligation.
No one has the right to shame you, bully you or vilify you based on your choices.
This also doesn’t mean the person you are choosing to disengage with is bad, it simply means it doesn’t work for you. However, if you are severing a relationship that is abusive on any level look for resources around that can help you facilitate this. I can not stress this next sentence enough. It is absolutely OK to take care of yourself and make healthy choices for yourself.
If people attack you as a result, remember, it speaks more about them than you. It is not uncommon for abusers to desperately try to continue their pattern of abuse with you. Many times this will present itself through repeated texts, phone calls, attempts at public humiliation on social media sites and abusive or shaming emails. Keep in mind that these tactics are to shame you as well as try to force you to interact with them continuing the cycle and pattern of abuse.
It is also very common for abusers to try to isolate you. They will criticize your support system (friends or family) and to try to manipulate how other people will view you.
Some recommended steps are: document ALL correspondence, contact the moderator of any social media to report online bullying, share what is happening with people around you, and look to a counselors or support group for help. To reinforce a very important truth, You ALWAYS have the right to end a relationship if it doesn’t feel safe to you. No one has the right to shame you, bully you or vilify you based on your choices.
Today, I am the captain of my own ship! I hope you are too~